When it comes to motivation, there really isn’t a one-size-fits all approach. People are motivated by different ideas and different messages. Some respond well to extrinsic motivation – when behavior is driven by external rewards like money, fame, or praise. And some people respond better to intrinsic motivation – when a behavior is driven by internal rewards. For many people, it’s a mixture of both, but most of us lean more towards one or the other. One of the keys to being successful in anything is understanding what motivates you so you can use that to your advantage.
When I look to Pinterest for motivation (as I often do) I get a great mix of intrinsic and extrinsic motivation. Depending on the day and how I’m feeling, I might lean more towards one or another but I find these words of encouragement are great mantras that I use to keep me going strong when I need an extra push.
Here are some of my favorites:
Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project and Happier at Home, has a great little quiz to help you figure out which way you lean. You can check it out here.
What type of motivations works best for you?
My vacation is in full swing and so far, I’ve been enjoying every moment of it. Everyone needs a break once in a while and I’m trying to really turn off work and relax. On Thursday, Jared and I leave for a 5 night trip to Vegas, and I can’t wait!
I know for me, it’s easy for diet and exercise to fall to the wayside when I’m away. I don’t beat myself up over it because you SHOULD indulge, that’s what vacations are for. But falling off the wagon completely always makes me feel worse, so I try to get a bit of exercise in when I can. For me, it’s all about preparation. When I’m home, my workouts are in the calendar so I do the same thing on vacation. Maybe not as specific, but I plan in advance which days I’m going to work out and which days I have off. I call the hotel ahead of time to find out if there’s a gym. If there isn’t one, I decide ahead of time what ‘in the room’ workout I’m going to do (for this trip, I’m using a barre video from Gina at The Fitnessista). It takes a little extra planning, but I’m always glad I did it. And everyone is ALWAYS impressed when they hear you worked out over vacation!
**Click here for Gina’s awesome workout!
Do you have a guru? Perhaps not in the traditional sense of the word, but maybe someone you consider as a master or teacher? For a long time, I’ve admired and respected the teachings and insights of author, Gretchen Rubin. Rubin has written a number of books on a variety of subjects and it’s her two books on happiness, The Happiness Project and Happiness at Home that led me to jokingly (and not so jokingly) refer to her as my guru.
As a lover of quotes, lists, and mantras, it’s no surprise that Rubin’s Secrets of Adulthood resonate with me. One of my absolute favorites is, “What you do every day matters more than what you do once in a while.”
No one is perfect and it’s silly to try to be. Sometimes we have an extra drink when we know we shouldn’t. Sometimes we accidentally leave someone on an email that we meant to take off. Sometimes we miss a workout because watching the latest episode of Modern Family just can’t wait any longer. What’s important is to remember that if those mistakes truly only happen once in a while, it’s ok.
I keep this hanging on the wall as a reminder to acknowledge my mistakes and learn from them – but to also let them go and not beat myself up. We all deserve a pass once in a while.
**This post has not been sponsored by Gretchen Rubin in any way; I’m simply a fan. If you’d like to read more, check out www.gretchenrubin.com.
Language can be incredibly powerful and I love turning to quotes for inspiration and motivation. I recently came across this quote by Buddha.
This week, I’m traveling for work and doing my best to take care of my mind and body. I find that the connection between the two is even more important when I’m out of my regular routine.
Do you agree or disagree? Do you find that there is a connection between your physical and mental well-being?
Twice in the past few weeks I’ve uttered the words ‘this is my worst nightmare’. Both instances involved all eyes on me and I was sure I was going to make a fool of myself. I was sure that I would be judged and ridiculed, and that I wouldn’t be good enough. Have you ever felt like that?
The first was my favorite dance class that I take almost every Saturday morning. I arrived at class to find I was the ONLY participant. While I silently patted myself on the back for getting to the gym at 10am the day after Halloween, I was mortified by the idea of a one-on-one class. The instructor would see just how badly I danced, just how long it took me to get the choreography. I prayed that class would be canceled, but of course it wasn’t.
The second was a few days later, I signed up for a 30 minute express HIIT class (high intensity interval training). I got to class and learned that all exercises would be done in pairs and we would rely on each other for every exercise. My partner seemed to be in such great shape. What if I slowed her down? What if my form was wrong? I hated the idea of having all this attention on me!
The funny thing is that once the classes started, my partner in the HIIT class was too concerned with her own performance to pay attention to me. And after the dance class, the instructor told me I made her entire day just by showing up. Just as I was completely focused on myself, so was everyone around me. So much so that I didn’t really need to worry what anyone else thought of me.
It can be so scary to try something new and put yourself in a situation where you might fail but those experiences are usually the most rewarding. I know that next time I go to a class with partners; I’ll have less anxiety about it and will be able to focus on my own performance. Have you had any similar experiences?